Getting Help

If you need anything

Just let me know, OK?

Is there some way I can help you?

Don’t be afraid to call if something comes up!!

I have learned the hard way

that asking for help

is not a sin.

I should not feel guilty

because I have problems.

Yet, so many people

don’t understand,

asking for help

is not a simple thing to do.

Cultural and social norms

put pressure on everyone

to be able to go it alone!

If you can’t do this one thing

then how do you expect to follow through?

Even my mother told me

“If no one else is doing it, then just do it yourself! I did it!”

Except I am not her.

I have problems because of her advice

and now even though I understand why

it still hurts to realize

she will never understand why

I can not just do it!

Whether it is a simple chore

or finding a job

or looking after my kids.

Years of coping strategies

that were more detrimental than helpful

have taken their toll.

Only now,

do I know how to use my voice

and ask for the help

I sometimes need!